Our Future Babies Shout: Dear, Mother!

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I once was an ignorant kid who spent her entire childhood and a part of her teenage years in denial and loss, I did not know what was it until it hit me on my 19th year. But we will not let our kids go through that same hell, will we? 

I will be speaking on behalf of the children our millennial will have. The children my friend or the friend of my friend just had but are still too young to speak up for themselves. This will be a strong reminder and lifelong advises to be followed by all mothers of this millennial. 

1- Your mother did it, but my mother will not.  

Your mother had controlled you in the name of motherhood and its unconditional love, and she had done irrational and not necessarily justified actions based on it. Your mother told you who to be friends with and who not to. Your mother justified everything she forced you to do with her motherly tangle and danger sensor. Your mother decided for you because she always believed that she knew you better than you know yourself when she only barely knew how you like your coffee. Your mother doubted every move you make and every decision you take because she never acknowledged that you have an evolved mind of your own. Your mother was too afraid that you will leave the nest one day, so, she broke your wings, but I hope you never do this to me, mom. I hope you will not let me go through the pain you cannot get over till today. 

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"I am hoping your open mind and strong heart will help me have a better life experience."

2- Don't steal my thunder. 

I am thankful that you raised me and was a great part of making who I am now. But that does not give you the right to claim my success as your own. That does not give you the right to take credit for something I worked my heart out for every day. 

You are a part of my success, but I would appreciate it if you were prouder of me than telling the whole world how I am a nothing without you. Please, brag about how smart I am and embracing myself, instead of speaking on my behalf around your friends and spreading facts about my personality that are not true. Be proud of me for who I am without trying to change anything about me, accept me and stop shaming me for not becoming what you dreamed I would be. 

I never want to feel the “I made you, I own you” vibes from you, because I did not even ask to be born, but I am hoping your open mind and strong heart will help me have a better life experience.

I hope you avoid everything you wish your mother avoided while raising you. I hope you spare me from the agony you are still secretly fighting with behind that strong and supportive spirit you try your best to drown me in, I hope you always inspire me to be half the strong woman you are.